Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage
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Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage

Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage

With Valentine’s Day right around corner, it’s only appropriate to talk a little bit about love. However, I’m not talking about the typical stuff that goes along with the holiday – the mushy cards, flowers, and candy – but the everyday, real life type of love that goes along with marriage.

I think it’s safe to say we’ve all heard 1 Corinthians 13 4-8, one of the most well-known Scriptures from the Bible. It goes:

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It is recited at so many weddings and posted as art on the walls of peoples’ homes. It contains the golden rules for a happy marriage. But, how do these words apply to real life? Here’s some insight into how can you implement this Scripture into the everyday events of your marriage.

Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage

Love is patient.
Be patient with your spouse. When we’re impatient, we are quick to get irritable, we don’t think before we speak. When we are not patient with our spouses we are more likely to say unkind words we will regret later. Patience fosters good communication. Jesus is patient with us, and we must be patient with one another.

Love is kind.
When you first started dating your spouse, you put your best foot forward. You wanted them to fall in love with you, and part of that meant showing them the utmost kindness and respect. It’s so important to still be kind to your spouse throughout your marriage. Show them the same kindness that Jesus showed to everyone. Be like Jesus to your spouse through your kindness. It’s a fact that showing kindness to others is contagious. The more kindness you show your spouse, the more kindness you’ll get in return.

It does not envy.
Have you ever received good news from your spouse about their promotion, their raise, or something else, and… … maybe you’re a stay at home mom who gave up your career to be home with the kids, and maybe you felt that little green monster of envy creeping up inside? You’re only human, but envy is not an emotion that serves anyone in a marriage. As spouses, it is our job to build each other up, support one another in every way, and be each other’s biggest cheerleaders. Success on either side reflects well upon both the husband and the wife, becuase marriage is a partnership and you can’t succeed without the support of your spouse. There’s no room for envy and jealousy, as these emotions will eat you up inside and make you an incredibly miserable person, and break down your marriage.

Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage

It does not boast.
So you may be better with the finances than he is, you may be a better handy-woman around the house, but please don’t boast about it. I heard this saying years ago and it rings so true, “do you want to be right, or do you want to be loved?” Boasting to your mate only undermines them, breaks down their confidence, and leads to doubt and insecurity… that’s a recipe for a broken marriage. We all have talents and skills, and chances are your spouse excels at some things you don’t. Think of how you’d feel if they boasted about it? How about this instead – boast to your spouse about how amazing THEY are and about their talents and skills. Praising them and building them up will make for a very happy and satisfied mate.

It is not proud.
Remember that time you two argued about where he hung up your green sweater, and you were so mad that he lost it, only to remember an hour later that YOU actually folded it and put it in the dresser in the guest room…but you didn’t tell him that it was actually your error, becuase you were too PROUD to admit you were wrong? And then that pride turned to guilt and ate you up inside, knowing you were wrong, but knowing you had dug yourself into a deep hole. Yep, that’s pride for ya! A bitter emotion that leads to nothing good in a marriage. Never be too proud to admit that you’re wrong, and to ask for grace and forgiveness. And, besides, if you follow the first few thoughts about being kind and patient, you won’t make it to pride anyway! 😉

It does not dishonor others.
Love means honoring your loved ones, and we do this by making them feel good, putting them first, and showing them our support.

Real Ways to Incorporate First Corinthians into Your Marriage

It is not self-seeking.
With love – real, true love – you don’t put your own needs above your spouse. You give of yourself freely, from a place of abundance. I stay in the kitchen a little later after dinner is over, not because it’s fun for me (I’m tired and I’d rather be watching tv in bed) but becuase I am making my husband’s lunch for the next day, to help him out, to nourish his body, to keep him strong and to take care of him. He bathes the kids for me after a long work day, not because he enjoys the stress of wrangling two tired toddlers and breaking his back bending over the tub, but becuase he cares about giving me some quiet time at the end of a long day of child rearing. We each put the other one above ourselves, and we are elevated to a spirit of giving. Love, it’s not self-serving. It is selfless. True love means sacrificing sometimes to better our spouse. Let me tell you, when you give to your spouse from a full heart, you will be blessed tenfold. Not only does it make God happy, but it pleases your spouse, who, in turn, wants to please you! How much more winning can you get?

It is not easily angered.
Bad moods happen, we are only human. But taking a ten second breather, saying it in your head first, and not letting the emotions take over will save you a lifetime of regret from saying something you shouldn’t say in the heat of the moment. Unkind words and bad tempers leave emotional scars that sometimes can’t heal. It damages a marriage. Being easily angered is a surefire recipe for your spouse to distance themselves from you, shut down, and put up a wall. Kindness, again, goes a long way. Always, always show your spouse kindness regardless of how you feel inside. Kindness breeds more kindness.

It keeps no record of wrongs.
We women are notorious for keeping records of wrongs. It’s one of the longest running jokes of all time.

Keeping a record of your spouse’s wrongs is not only frustrating to them, but it’s toxic to you. Let go, move on, and start with a clean slate. Just as Jesus died on the cross to cleanse us of our sins, show your spouse grace by forgiving and forgetting. Don’t keep a record of their wrongs. God doesn’t!

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Plain and simple, love does not rejoice in wrongdoing. Instead, it treasures truth, celebrates good behavior, and promotes virtue. True love has nothing to hide.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

What are the ways that you show your spouse God’s love and grace?

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